Same Sex. New York City.

We gathered again in November at Mixx Lounge in Manhattan to discuss what life is like for the single lesbian in New York City. Our panelists Sherry and Elisabeth talked about who they were looking for, where they were trying to her, and told some cautionary tales of experiences gone wrong.

Since NYC is one of the most queer friendly cities in the country, people may think that we have the lion's share of dating possibilities. Not necessarily so after talking to this panel.

It appears that regardless of sexual orientation, the challenge of finding someone to date and/or have a relationship with is just a feature of being human. Some women choose online dating sites like Match or CurveMag, and others do the legwork by showing up weekends at the few lesbian bars NYC has to offer (other smart ones come to Gather - awe yeah!).

I shared a website with the group of a woman who was raising money to buy ad space at the Superbowl to make an appeal for her man. "What do you do when you’re over the bar scene, when singles events are reunions of guys you’ve already dated, and online matchmaking turns up only a parade of losers and liars?" Apparently, the SuperBowl Single Girl thinks that you turn to one of the highest forms of self-promotion by taking out a very expensive ad. ((I don't think she did succeeded, but I hope she did find her football lovin' wing-eating face paintin' man))